Each family has its own rules for the distribution of family roles, and first of all this applies to doing household chores. Love and harmony will reign in the couple if all responsibilities are distributed fairly, there are no reproaches and dissatisfaction with each other due to the excessive workload of one of the spouses. Unfortunately, conflicts often occur over this issue. How can you negotiate with your husband so that he provides all possible assistance in running the household?
It is advisable to agree on the distribution of household responsibilities in the first days and months of family life. But if time is lost, don’t despair. You can always agree with your spouse or children on new principles of housekeeping; the main thing is to do this gradually, following certain rules. Let's look at them in more detail.
First, you need to decide: what kind of workload each spouse bears at their main job (employment, business, etc.), who can spend how much time at home and pay attention to creating comfort in the house and doing all the necessary things. Did you count? Then different options are possible.
If you have children
If children are growing up in the house, they also need to be taught to contribute as much as they can to household chores: cleaning up after themselves, setting the table, watering the flowers. Older people can be entrusted with more serious tasks: cooking dinner, washing the floors. The child must learn to do all household chores gradually, so that by the age of 16 he can become completely independent in everyday matters.
If only the husband works
If only the husband works in the family, and the woman is at home, then she can take on the bulk of the household responsibilities. In the same 8 hours, while her husband is at work, she can do many household chores: do laundry, cook lunch and dinner, wash the dishes and much more. And you can spend the evening with your beloved spouse watching your favorite movie, comfortably sitting in a clean and tidy apartment. But in this case it is necessary to take into account several points.
Firstly, it is difficult to do routine housework seven days a week, not only physically, but also psychologically. Therefore, you need to give yourself at least one day off a week, devoting it to shopping, meeting friends or relatives, and active recreation. Housework is a job like any other, and it should also alternate with days off.
Secondly, the mistress of the house should not forget about herself. You need to exercise regularly to maintain your figure and dress beautifully and neatly. Then there will be no feeling that life is passing by.
When both work
If both spouses work equally, then household responsibilities must be distributed fairly, stipulating who will be responsible for this or that area of work. For example, a wife washes dishes, floors and laundry. The husband can cook, vacuum, and buy groceries.
In order for a man to willingly take upon himself the share of household chores due to him, one must ask him about this calmly, without putting forward ultimatums.You can, for example, ask your husband to take on all tasks related to the use of household appliances, citing the fact that he is better versed in this. You can offer to cook some dish for dinner together, then you can chat while cooking, and the food will seem tastier. The main thing is to be grateful for every fact of help around the house.
Particularly capricious husbands can be asked to organize a competition: daily write down the number of household chores completed by each family member, and sum up the results at the end of the month. Whoever wins is entitled to a bonus: either a gift (its value should be proportional to the number of watches “won”), or the fulfillment of some wish. Men love excitement and can get involved in such competition.
