Every woman who independently maintains comfort and order in the house thinks about the question: how to force household members to respect their work?
From time immemorial, there has been a tradition of separating the responsibilities of men and women. Men have to raise money to support their families, while women are left with housekeeping and raising children. Routine housework is an endless task, the results of which are not visible for long. After a while you have to start over. Therefore, most men believe that a woman basically does nothing at home, especially one who does not go to work in an office or factory. In the 21st century, women also earn money, but household responsibilities are still considered female by default and taken for granted.
Women’s domestic work is not always appreciated
Why does this happen?
All people are different. Some feel good about others - their mood, degree of fatigue or state of health. Others are self-obsessed and consider only their work important and hard. So is it possible to find a solution?
Several ways that can help in this matter
There is no need for a woman to shoulder the entire amount of work and then wonder why family members take advantage of her and do not respect her work at all.
Distribute household responsibilities among family members. For example:
- for the smallest ones - to clean up toys after themselves (you can use the game “put the dolls to sleep”) or make sure that the cat has water and food in his bowl;
- Older children should be assigned to vacuum the apartment and put away the dishes after dinner;
- grandmothers - to cook breakfast, and grandfathers - to take out the trash;
- The whole family can do some spring cleaning or make dumplings on the weekend.
Don’t be shy to ask your family for help. Be sure to talk about how you are feeling and do not forget to clarify that without their help it would be difficult to cope with cleaning or cooking.
Be sure to thank them for their contributions. This raises self-esteem and awareness of the value of household work.
You can also visualize a list of things to do around the house. Take a piece of paper, write it down in the to-do column for the day, and mark “done” as you complete it. Hang the sheet in a visible place. This way, loved ones will see how much work a woman does at home.
How to teach your husband to appreciate his wife's work
Of course, if a husband grew up in a family where there was a clear division between male and female responsibilities, then he is unlikely to independently take on some of the household chores and respect the work of a housewife. But it’s worth trying to explain to your husband, talking to him.
It is advisable to discuss each other's responsibilities around the house at the very beginning of the relationship. This to-do list will, of course, change over time. But if you start to negotiate right away, there will be no conflict situations in the future.
Well, if the husband is used to the fact that everything in the house is done without his participation, and has ceased to consider the work of a housewife worthy of respect, conduct shock therapy.Let the husband who came home from work see this picture: mountains of unwashed dishes, an uncooked dinner, naughty children and a contented, rested wife. Literally, she has done nothing all day.
If this does not get through to the husband, then there is another way: leave the family alone at home for a week. Or at least one day without prepared food. Let them fully experience the charm and ease of doing nothing at home.
But the main thing in the family is love, mutual care and rational distribution of household responsibilities. Then the woman will not need to pretend to be an all-powerful housewife, take offense and wait for recognition from the family.
