In order to prevent family life from cracking, it is best to immediately agree with the man who will take on what responsibilities. For example, he helps by washing and peeling potatoes, while the woman prepares food from them. He vacuums, she washes the dishes. Of course, there are cases when a man must be able to do a certain minimum of housework. The wife has left, is in the maternity hospital or is simply sick, so here the man, willy-nilly, will have to cook and go to the store.
Let's look at several options to find out exactly what methods exist to attract a man to help.
We divide housework into male and female
A man does hard labor-intensive work, a woman does easier work. Where you have the skills, you can do things together or take turns. For example, a wife does not like to do homework with the children, but her husband does it better. Or she doesn’t want to wash the dishes, let her husband wash them that day. We find a consensus and enter into negotiations. We don’t force the man, but ask him if he will help with the work.
We trust him more in everyday life
When a loved one is constantly forbidden to do something, scolded, then he naturally loses the desire to do something around the house. When he can’t cope, don’t swear, offer your help, motivating that we can do better. We lower our demands and don’t reproach in vain.
Don't do men's housework
Their path is carried out by a man. Can not? Another question, let him solve it radically, but on his own.If you need to assemble furniture or install plumbing, don’t ask your husband to do it; it may be easier to pay for the services and let the professionals do it. Let him earn money to pay for the services of other people, and his wife will be grateful to him. In order for the house to be nice and cozy, it is not necessary to constantly work hard yourself, entrust this to third parties, but let the man pay for their services;
Find men's favorite chores to do around the house
Do you like to cook? Loves vacuuming? Let him do this. Do not grab and do this work for him, remind him that now it is in his power. Most importantly, don’t forget to praise.
Don't criticize or scold, accept quality
At first, if a man is not used to helping, everything will be at random. Here you either do it yourself, or be patient and wait for him to learn. Not everyone is taught housekeeping at home, and not even every man can choose the right products.
Usually young families suffer from problems such as help at home. Here it takes a long time to grind in characters and tastes, and relationships often deteriorate. Older people are more loyal to their significant other. They may not reproach in vain or do the work themselves.
Sometimes women resort to flattery and cunning; they often praise a man, and he is happy to please them in everything. However, if a man considers himself the breadwinner, and the woman the keeper of the home, then it is almost useless to wait for help here. Such men rarely change their minds in terms of what he should do around the house. Here you can hint that if they kindly help her, then they will have more time to be together.
Many men then proudly believe that they do some things around the house better than their spouses, so it all depends on the ladies and the ability to shift some of the worries onto the men’s shoulders.
